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Me: o.k., so i need to know: do people still "ask" to go steady (and use the term "go steady"), or do some kind of verbal confirmation - or will i be expected to figure it out on my own?
maybe through telepathy?
Me: seriously, i don't want to make assumptions or be an ass - would rather avoid that.
Balou: i'll play devil's advocate. if the guy spends almost all his free time with you and is attentive and thoughtful, wouldn't that tell you something?
Me: just that he likes me, not that we're exclusive. for all i would know, he's seeing other people, too.
which would be fine, i guess, and would mean i could also see whomever i please and not get hung up on someone who could take me or leave me. >:-(
don't mean to be so bitchy, just don't want to go out of my way or be as loving and awesome as i like being with someone who doesn't even want to make it exclusive and be in "relationship" mode. why bother.
ugh - getting worked up for no reason.
Balou: it's o.k. better to know how you feel and stick to your standards. BUT... i don't think a guy would waste time "dating" a chick unless he's into her. if he wanted to be "just friends" believe me, you would know the difference. my best friends have always been guys so i know that of which i speak!
Me: yeah. just wondering how it's done nowadays to see if i'm being realistic. for me, i am not anyone's g/f until there's a conversation or i'm asked (and damn, it better be sweet and/or romantic!). and i certainly won't stick around for months and months and months on end in some weird kind of limbo.
Balou: me either.
Me: but that could be unrealistic or old-fashioned. i have no idea. i myself wouldn't even know how to have this conversation, so what can i expect from someone else?
lmao i could almost imagine being asked - will they give me a note that says, "will you be my girlfriend? circle 'yes' or 'no'" ahahahahaha
Balou: Yeah, but then you could play all hard to get and just write 'maybe' instead! lol!
Me: true. i'd laugh my ass off. then melt.
then again, it could be crystal clear. the guy could be SO crazy about me that i won't feel any uncertainty and he won't be such a baby or pussy or mysterious about it. at least, that's how it's going to have to be for me to even take him THAT seriously.
Balou: i would think so. i mean, at least to me if the guy doesn't say "you're my GF" i don't make the assumption. dating is dating. but a committed, exclusive relationship is something i feel needs to be addressed directly. no guessing. maybe WE (you and me) are not like most people. i need the confirmation.
Me: no, i totally get that - i feel the same and am just glad i'm not the only one!